Advice About Love. N031

Word of advice and wisdom to the public I'm writing this to help my fellow colleagues and their issue's: Its true what they say if you're too nice or too kind people will walk all over you in this life. You try to be the best and give the best to someone or anyone and they'll take advantage of you. Especially in relationships, you can not be too nice and you can not be too mean. In other words keep the water warm not to cold not too hot; if it’s too cold you'll become a hard layer of ice that people can walk on and if it’s too hot no one can come to you or get near you because they'll always get burned or hurt from your words or actions. It’s better to be warm because for comfort or relief you’re their comfort zone… Relationships can revolve around this and become super successful but no one from the start is going to be a prince charming, they need to adjust to your needs and you need to adjust to your partners needs also. For example, his dislikes confront them and fix them do not ignore them because then your partner will find someone else who can actually correct them or not even have them…. It’s all about conforming to one another, never about who can be the better person in the relationship, because then there’s this unbalance-ment with one another. And that equals the arguments, if you take this advice and not just read it but apply it into your relationship then you will be able to make any relationship successful even the most odd ones. Meaning being complete opposites from one another. But remember both sides have to be eye to eye on this matter or the unbalance-ment occurs once again.

Always remember communication is key. If you read this article refer it to your partner/lover. Let them know what you think about it and what were some key elements that sparked your interest and this article can become a great conversation starter, Give it a try. Remember Love over lust; always. Look for love never lust. Lust will just make you get over your partner because you saw another person who was more appealing to you, if you live your life like this, when are you going to find someone who is good enough for you? Lust is another big issue in today's world. Getting bored of one another; if you get bored of your partner then what will ever be good enough for you? You will never be satisfied.  If the reason you get bored is long term? Then when is anyone going to be the right person for you? ; it’s not about being entertained with one another but being assured with one another. Assured of Trust, Love, Care, Compassion, Respect, Comfort, the basic’s.... you can always add your own words and wants in there, but remember that they need to be fulfilled. I myself act how I would like to be treated in my relationships, because what I give is what I want in return that is understandable is it not? I scratch your back you scratch mine in return. Lean on one another for support and comfort… But this is quite difficult to find and achieve but it is not impossible to achieve. So keep looking and apply these new learned factors into a change that you can obtain. For example I tend to isolate myself from any other female so my partner won’t have any thoughts or worry of me doing wrong, I don’t tell her to trust me I show her she can trust me, I only spend time with her and no one else, my phone rings for 3 reasons, Her, Family, And Work. And those are the rules which I live by in my relationship, I expect my partner to be the whole 360 I need no gaps in-between, but then again I can’t expect too much from someone? They are only human and so am I, but I also try to let them know about my problems and habits so I can adjust on the ones they dislike and they can adjust on the ones I dislike also….. It’s about adapting to a new environment, a new life style, a new love. The only way you know you truly love someone is when you’re able to learn from them, change for them, and need them.

But then again love has so many definitions in one’s life, that it’s hard to actually give it a meaning or expectation…… I give my wisdom to thee, I hope it comes into good use, and you can benefit from it, more will be available when my mind opens up to the thoughts and feelings I receive that conflict in my mind as the one’s you read above. Thank you for taking the time in reading this.

My Thoughts, In Words.....

I always say to gain something you have to give another.... so why is it that I give so much and I never even gain enough? not even a little in comparison to what I have given? I come in giving more than I am bargaining for... why is that? to get what out of it? Empty hands? Do I not deserve good? That is all I've ever given you... That is all I've ever wanted in return.... Is that too much? God when is it going to be enough? Copyright N031©




Life is like a bicycle... you have to learn how to ride it.. but to truly learn how to ride, you must fall off of it a few times... well guess what? I am here. Do not worry I'll be the training wheels preventing you from falling down... You have fallen before in the past because of the people who have pushed you off... But like the helmet on your head I will defend you... like the balance of the bike I will sustain you... Like the training wheels on the bike I will not allow you to get hurt... Copyright N031©